Pushing Preschoolers with Pandering Pumps

My 5 year old needed a new pair of sneakers, We searched high & low for the ultimate, after about 10 shops we found them. Oh man, were they something. That were bejeweled in sequins, bling and flashing lights, really, I am not exaggerating, they were every little girls fantasy. As we walked into the store the salesperson greeted my child & not me. She proceeded to verbally stroke my child and ask what she wanted. She went back to the stock room and brought out 5 pairs of shoes. Only one of which we had asked for. The rest, now hold on, had heels. They were heeled flip flops for a 5 year old?! It was true, I thought I was dreaming but alas they were real. As the sales person continued to “sell” the idea to my daughter I watched it all unfold before my eyes. First it was the compliments, then the suggestions of when one would wear them, then how great she looked in them, to: “let’s just try them on and see how cool you look!”

At this point I was perversely curious enough to stay in the background and watch it unravel. My daughter said to me at one point while the sales girl was getting more stock that: “she was nice”. I asked my daughter why she thought so, she couldn’t come up with a reason, fascinating. So I reminded her that she was in charge of the decision & that she should choose the shoes that were most comfortable, easiest to wear & that she would use the most. When the sales person came back with 3 more pairs to confuse matters, my daughter had already picked her sneakers. Mind you, I would not normally patronize such a large store, but she was very convicted about these particular shoes and I do believe in freedom of guided choice for little people. Especially as a small business owner & maker of clothing, I figure she should have some freedom to be “like” the others…

After selecting the favorite pair, much to the disappointment of the sales girl as we were leaving with only the one pair. My daughter proudly wore them out of the shop & was delighted with herself. We had a chat about what happened in there & why heeled sandals were silly & not for children with developing feet & why etc. But the real test came after she had worn them for about a month and thought she was the coolest. She started Kindergarten and after a few days she asked upon returning home: “why do so many of the kids have my shoes?” Lesson learned? Something is as special as it’s uniqueness. Perhaps wearing handmade clothes rather than store bought big box isn’t so bad after all! She still wears them, to go to the park and run around, but they don’t get worn to school & they spend most of the time at the back of the closet, mainly due to the fact that “every girl has them.”

McDonalds, Kids & No Free Water

For most conscientious parents in the Western world it is an accomplishment if you successfully shelter your kids from the commercial world.  I mean, realistically if they don’t know what  McDonalds is by the time they are say 2, you have really gotten away with something! My daughter  (4 ) recognizes logos, stores etc. She watches PBS television, we don’t  support chain stores or fast food until a recent trip where we truly had no other choice but to get her a Filet of fish and french fries. She still refers to this as the ‘French Fry Store” and we perpetuate the myth by agreeing. I live with guilt and terror at my moment of weakness & my lack of creativity…

My horror and  confirmation of the institution that is McDonalds was renewed for life with this one experience. Upon asking for a cup for water I was told McDonalds no longer offers water to it’s customers. To my disbelief I went to the soda machine to check, and it was sadly true. The water tap was gone, no longer could one of the richest & most vulgar fast food institutions offer their “customers” water. Instead, I was told that I could purchase a bottle of water. This magnificent plastic landfill bottle was a pint of Dasani, which is of course a Coca Cola product. So now do they not only charge you for water, it is not in a biodegradable wax cup and I was then told I could order a happy meal & get milk instead. Had I done so, I would have also gotten another plastic landfill toy.

I am by no means a trendy Politically Correct type. I do reason with my child with regards to requests for plastic toys,. When she asks she has been given the explaination and now, when she asks for one I prompt her with “where do the toys go when you are done with them?” she says,  “the landfilll” that without failure concludes our conversation and any further requests. The same has now to be applied to requests for the French Fry store. That one experience at the age of 3 was so powerful that she still asks when we are near a McDonalds. The power and draw so great that a year later she remembers. Not only because her mother went on a rant over the lack of water, but what she ate, how it tasted, the whole experience forever etched in her impressionable little brain.

Some of you reading this may think, what’s the big deal? If I create a denial of something, naturally the child will want it more? Every time my child requests I give her a better, more enticing alternative. For example, how about instead we go to the market and you get to choose whatever  you like for lunch & we have a car picnic? My point is, there are many alternatives to provide to challenge the “norm”.  As I write this rant, I regret we had little choice on our travels that day, thanks to complacency, accepting the norm and not challenging changes we don’t agree with,  McDonalds may soon be your only option. I know that my experience was magnified by the whole paying for water thing. I expect to do so in other countries but not in the U.S.A. the land of milk & honey, plenty and GROSS consumerism. I’ll be damned if I have to pay for water!  I publicly vow from here on out, I WILL NEVER cross the threshold of a McDonalds again.

I urge you  to ponder all of the choices you make.  From the food choices, to where and how you buy your children’s clothing, toys etc.  and where it goes when you are finished with it? Because despite myself, your children will influence mine and that horrifies me if you are not thinking!!!

Minneapolis Mediocrity

As I was driving into work today I was struck be a couple factors. One, I am getting older as I can now reflect on what “used” to be. Two, Mediocrity and complacency has gotten a strong hold in my native town of Minneapolis. The Uptown I knew has been fully replaced by the very thing I loathe looking at. Bit by Bit it’s face changed, now fully unrecognizable and devoid of the very things that made it special. I know I speak for many with memories longer than mine, but the death of independent specialty shops is sealed.

It’s not just the products that have replaced them but the lack of aesthetic that comes with them. The buildings & structures they build are equal to the products they carry. Generic, emotionless, mass manufactured, cold, impersonal, ugly. In the winter, I take note of the number of people completely comfortable wearing Columbia, Patagonia, The North Face gear in every color. Apparently, this is “our” fashion statement. I get the miserable weather, harsh winters etc. but really must we be reduced to looking like that? I mean, so many of us? Is this what “we’ have become? Apparently, this is the Minneapolis uniform, why else could Columbia & North Face build an empire on Hennepin Ave.? Am I alone is this? Does anyone else see what has become acceptable or norm here? Are we losing our sense of character, whimsy, independence? I realize this is the Midwest but honestly, have we all lost the plot?! I remember a Minneapolis with a backbone, a bit of fire, did they all move away? I must be getting old…

A child’s bike seat that doesn’t require a spaceship.

Bobike Junior in actionIt would seem a simple quest… You would like to take your child cycling for pleasure or transport, but can’t find an appropriate seat. I have spent a couple months on this quest researching Bell, ibert, Burley, Topeak, Co-Pilot Weeride, Dumbo, Instep, Bobike etc. & hope that I may help you! If you live in North America as I do, you will discover that the options are few.

Here is the background , all children’s bike seats that are to be attached to an adult frame are of molded plastic of varying size. They all have slightly different features, most have a limited weight restriction. They all resemble something that should be in a spaceship from a 1950′s science fiction film, or better yet they have cages that do a good job or emulating a medieval torture device. They are difficult to mount, navigate with, and you certainly won’t be able to carry anything else on your bike. Frustrated yet?

Next, don’t believe the hype. Retailers will encourage you to purchase a trailer for your child, stating it is the safest way to travel. Studies have proven this irrelevant, based on where you live, how you travel etc. The reason they promote trailer travel is that they themselves have nothing else to offer. Look at this objectively, the rest of the “free world” has & does travel with their children on their bicycles. Take the Netherlands for example, is there a more pro-family country in Europe?! Would they allow their children to travel unsafely?

I realize if you are reading this you may be in the “minority”, but that is who I am appealing to. I like to think I am conscientious, I live in a climate that is covered in snow & ice 5-6 months of the year. Still, we are a 1 car family, live in the city center and try to do “our bit” for the planet. I refuse to accept that their are no other options. When my daughter was born I found a front mount bike seat (bobike mini ) that allowed me to ride with her from 9 months to 3 years that was roughly a $100 investment from One Step Ahead The seat was easy to balance, the ride was intimate and I knew what she was doing, we could communicate and mostly, she was part of the experience. The dilemma was finding the next size up.

A needle in a haystack? There are only two distributors in the U.S. Bobike of the Netherlands offer the best options for safe travel from 9 months to 9 years. They can be ordered via http://clevercycles.com (carry all models) or http://www.koolstop.com/index.php. (carry 1 style) I am not endorsing, but merely want to disspel the myth regarding safety and our lack of options. When you consider your investment, nothing compares to 8 years of use & 2 seats for a mere $350. Help liberate our children from passive trailer captivity & spaceship cages! Let them cycle!!!